"Have you ever realized in the first 10 seconds of a conversation that the person you’re talking to is a complete moron? Maybe you’re a nice person who politely wraps it up as best you can and then makes fun of them to your friends later. Or maybe you’re an asshole who looks them dead in the eyes and says, "Oh. You’re one of those. I’m going to stop talking to you now and go set my brain on fire.”

That snap judgment is a filtering mechanism, one that saves a ton of time and effort by immediately deciding the person in front of us has nothing to offer. Everybody has that mechanism, and everybody needs it. The problem is that it’s really easy to develop a hair trigger on the “Shut the Fuck Up” button. So you hear yourself saying things like …”